Mujhe khushi ka hamesha dhokha sa raha hai......mere andhar kuch na kuch jalta sa raha hai"

Not everything is right about it but most of things are TRUE

Be careful of your friends & family

Sometimes we become so comfortable with the familiar people around us, we may not notice which of them may be toxic in our lives.

That toxicity may not even be intentional. Some folks can drain you of your energy, spirit, motivation, and overall enthusiasm towards living, and not even know it. We act primarily with our self interests in mind, and that can lead to blinders towards how those actions affect the ones around us.

One thing I've been working on, is solving my problems instead of sharing them. I also pay attention to those that come to me with their problems; many of the times, they're not looking for solutions, but rather an opportunity to vent & seek affirmation. When I try to provide practical steps, i'll get replies like "you don't understand".

I do understand though.

What they're really saying is "You're not agreeing & feeling sorry for me, so I'm going to dismiss your take on my situation". When you care about these people, this can take an emotional toll on you as well.

We need to put a bit more faith in ourselves that we can solve our problems. It's rarely a specific strategy we're lacking, but more so a will to step outside our familiar zone into something new (even if it's for the best).

We all got problems, it's not a competition of pain. We're all going through difficulties, that's the essence of life, and the sole means of progress if you think about it (no pain, no gain).

I know the futility of venting because I've vented to no avail on multiple occasions. I've also sat and given advice to close friends, who end up only changing when they were ready, and then, my advice wasn't needed.

Don't hold people down, and don't let people hold you down, no matter who they are in your life. Spend your existence on the people that bring you energy, excitement, happiness, wonder, inspiration, and laughter. There needs to be a level of emotional natural selection.

If people want to spend their time feeling sorry for themselves, they should do it without expense to others.
If you're one of those people, don't bring others down with you. The people that care about you are going through their own sh*t don't burden them with yours.

With that said, there's nothing wrong with asking for help, just don't let the person helping you regret the time & energy they spent to do so.

Trust yourself, you've been gifted with more than you know. Pay attention to whether you have a real problem, or just a fear of it's solution. 

"In the end, we remember not the words of our enemies,
 but the silence of our friends....Martin Luther King Jr.

Let You Go Written By Varan

Let you go
My eyes are still wet 
My heart won’t still let
me forget
what you made me feel

Five have passed 
Months since you asked
If my love surpassed 
the need to keep my principles alive

Passed have more than three 
months since the decree
that we are free
and will be happy when we live apart

Ruins of the place where we met
Have not stopped cursing me yet
I know the sun is angry, the flowers upset
It’s time to let you go

The poems of love are turning dry
as the witnesses of that love cry
since I have already said the final good bye
It’s time to let you go

Memories comfort no more
I feel you too have shut the door
to your heart which, I think, is still sore
It’s time to let you go

No more my logic let’s me hope
Since there’s no way I will elope
And because I can’t cope
It’s time to let you go

I broke the promises I never made 
So you doubted my love and prayed 
that one day I love, but you never weighed 
my love for you, so It’ time to let you go

I accept the committed mistakes
I regret the pain and heartaches 
But I beseech you to walk with me
and announce while into my eyes you see
“You let me go, and I let you go”
“I make you unbound and you set me free”
“I promise to move on, please let me go”
“Please let me go”

TMF- 1/21/2013-4.27

University of Life

Sometimes I think what are we going to do when we fail, when we see our friends/relatives our own people going away, breaking relations, stabbing on our back, hiding things? When we start doubting our personality, when we start questioning ourselves WHY I am like this or that? We know others are celebrating our griefs, what are we going to do when we fail and all this happens?
I don’t know about you but I am going to look up from my toes, into the sun without flinching. I am going to walk out there alone, have a silent moment and then come out strong, grit my teeth and will take a guard to face the next problem (ball). My behaviour could change depending upon the situation and people but my passion for something will remain same. I will still be like a joker; I will laugh at myself, will make fun of myself and will make people happy.  
If I know that I made a mistake I will say whatever has happened, happened, tell me how I can fix this or tell me what to do. That’s the only thing I can do. At the University of Life, admission is open to all. All I need is my mind, clever to pick up lessons. Smart to learn from mistakes. To things I have to learn. To things life has to teach. 
My dear friends I cannot give up and you should not. I believe world is very short and life is beautiful in a way. People challenged me every time, they are trying to make me feeling less but I won’t give up listening to songs of birds, winds,  watching sun rises,  and setting the sun in the arms of sea. 

Harry and Sally ........

Harry: I love you.
Sally: How do you expect me to respond to this?
Harry: How about you love me, too?
Sally: How about, I’m leaving.
Harry: Doesn’t what I said mean anything to you?
Sally: I’m sorry, Harry. I know it’s New Year’s Eve. I know you’re feeling lonely, but you just can’t show up here, tell me you love me, and expect that to make everything all right. It doesn’t work this way.
Harry: Well, how does it work?
Sally: I don’t know, but not this way.
Harry: How about this way? I love that you get cold when it’s seventy-one degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you’re lookin’ at me like I’m nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it’s not because I’m lonely. And it’s not because it’s New Year’s Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.
Sally: (feeling manipulated but also melting) You see. That is just like you, Harry. You say things like that, and you make it impossible for me to hate you, and I hate you, Harry. I really hate you. I hate you.

'Half Done'

Woh log bahut khush kismat thay
jo ishq ko kaam samajhte thay
ya kaam se aashiqui karte thay
ham jite’ji mashroof rahe
kuchh ishq kiya, kuchh kaam kiya
kaam ishq ke aa’re aata raha
aur ishq se kaam ulajhta raha
phir aakhir tang aakar ham ne
dono ko adhoora chhor diya....'Faiz'

Translation:
Fortunate indeed were those
who took love as their business
or were in love with whatever they did.
I remained busy my whole life–
some love, some work.
Work came in the way of love
and love often impeded work.
Then, finally, in disgust, giving it all up,
I forsook them both, half done.